Four Kinds of Love; Eros, Agape, Phileo & Storge

Are you Learning to Love? I was introduced to these forms of love a recent Sunday past and I wanted to share my thoughts but this write-up expresses it nicely. There was something about the way it was taught or the mere introduction to new terms that made me realize  there is more to it than what I had previously understood. The expression of love in Greek and particularly in biblical sense is far more complex than a romantic love which dominates our society today.

I  believe that understanding the different types of love can help us understand how we truly express it in our lives to the fullest as we should or in a more meaningful way. Isn’t it peculiar that in ancient languages such as Greek there are many different words for the expression of love and in English we just know “Love” how then do we begin to understand it? I want to continue unveiling the truth about what love is. Truth being an original idea and God being love himself I must look to him for what he meant.

It is comforting to know that on some level we all are experiencing an everlasting love all the time from Him. With this knowledge I long for my expression to not be led by earthly misconceptions but to be conformed to the will of God and be pleasing to his Spirit even in my expression of the lower forms of love. I like how this post has described Agape as that glue that holds the other loves together that unconditional, willful decision to sacrifice for the benefit of others. Have I sacrificed on behalf of another? And how can this be easily polluted in my not codependent anymore brain?
I want to love rightly and not go about expressing something that is parading around as love when in fact it is nothing but a fickle lie. I want to live up to 1 Corinthians 13

{Learn to love with Milly}

Eros to Agape

The Greeks had four words to describe what we call love, Eros, (romantic love), Phileo, (enjoyment, fondness, friendship), Storge (family loyalty) and Agape (unconditional love with stick-ability). I like to think of them broadly as;

  1. Eros-A love felt particularly within the body (trembling excitement, elation, joy), coloured and underpinned by deep and beautiful procreative urges. C.S. Lewis distinguishes Eros from natural sexual urges and lusts, because Eros is a state of the heart and while it is intimately related to sex, sex can exist, and often does exist, without Eros enlivening it. It leads to children, family, joy and laughter. It is good and right, but it is usually not enough to sustain a relationship long term. Eros is an exulted and beautifully idealistic love, usually between a man and woman, but can also be “platonic” and extend to deeply intimate friendships. Socrates defined Eros as also working with…

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When you’re holding onto dead ends

Transitioning can be rough. I tried it many times before what makes me think I'll succeed? The resolve I have now is not to be shaken, by anything!! I am however considering a hair cut! Accusatory statements can bombard your psyche making it overwhelming to progress: Wasn't your hair lovely the way it  was "all straight"? Didn't … Continue reading When you’re holding onto dead ends